So here’s a typical guys experience with online dating and why they give up on it quickly.
They set up their profile, pictures and all that fancy stuff. They begin searching what seems like an endless supply of single women. Dating sites make it easy to navigate women (and men) because they want their users to spend a lot of time on there.
Click a picture, view profile and you realize this girls really good at taking default photo because rest of her pics you realize she is a hambeast. Side note: Always judge a woman online based off her worst picture, don’t get caught up in the 3 or 4 other cutesy pics.
Worst case scenario she looks like worst pic in person. Best case scenario, it was just a bad angle or bad lighting or something. A lot of women use the instagram filters and other photo editing stuff even on the ever trendy no makeup pic.
Finally after a dozen or so zeros you find your perfect girl. Cute, witty in her profile. And OMG you even have things in common! If it’s a match-type site like OkCupid you even may have an 88% compatibility.
This is a match made in heaven the guy thinks. Guy crafts a beautiful long message of why you’re compatible and things in common. Common things are a bonus but remember a woman isn’t going to sleep with you just because you enjoy knitting and Nascar too.
She has to be attracted to you. At least like your looks on worst case thinks you’re cute, best case thinks you’re hot. <<= Women are more likely to sleep with a guy via internet or in person with a guy she views as hot rather than cute. But you can make up for it by making her laugh and your personality.
So we got sidetracked there but back to it. You sent her this message why you’re perfect for each other. Then all you have to do is wait for her to respond back.
Oh well that and then you look at her profile again and imagine the great times you’re going to share. You’re perfect together after all right? Man she sure is beautiful. Your mom’s going to love her and your friends are going to be jealous. Then your ex girlfriend, when she sees the 2 of you is going to realize what a great guy she lost.
Day goes by no response. 2 days and still nothing. Stalk her profile again and realize she was on yesterday. Maybe she didn’t have time. Responding to the love of her life can’t be rushed you know.
Finally you realize the fantasy is over & this girl isn’t going to respond back and you go through mini heartbreak. She should have responded back to at least say she isn’t interested or at least not right now right?
Wrong! This is some stranger on the internet and she owes you nothing. Just because you imagined your life together doesn’t mean she liked you. Maybe she got back with her psycho ex boyfriend in the last few days. Or maybe *GASP* she didn’t find you attractive.
When she fails to respond to your message, what’s next?
Do you write her a message you were a perfect match and you can’t believe she didn’t get back? Do you send her something cocky like “Your loss babe.” <= I’ve done that =(
Obviously this is dramatized of what goes on but you get my point right. In this case you (or guy in scenario) fell in love or at least lust with a stranger online. Guys go on and become bitter and resent online dating.
The best thing in this fictitious case is to just move on and keep on keepin’ on. You lost the game when falling in lust before ever exchanging messages and worst yet even meeting her.
Was my friend too picky with women online?
This happened when a friend of mine and I were pulling ass online. Our friend Ed signed up for POF. He judged these women practically under a microscope. Chipped toenail or shitty tattoo, no good. Harsh judging, but that’s who he is.
I seen him a week later and asked him how his online dating was going.
Man that POF shit don’t work.
So he told me how he only found 3 girls attractive that were close by. What he did do was message the 3 hottest girls within like 5 miles of him and nothing back. Like that he gave up on dating sites to find sex partners. He does well on Facebook and in bars though so to each his own.
So it can go both ways. Don’t put your standards at an albatross level and don’t fall in love with a profile prematurely. Be sure to give yourself multiple options with women online, not just a few.